I don't really get Halloween. I mean, I enjoy a good masquerade ball as much as the next girl (actually, I've never been to a masquerade ball, but I have no doubt that I would enjoy it very much, should I ever achieve my dream of travelling back to 1868 and actually getting to attend one.) And of course, I like candy far more than I probably should.
What don't I like? Any day that exhorts the vast majority of the world's children to act even more like spoiled, entitled little brats than they normally do any day of the week. Any day where I am encouraged, nay, expected to dress up like Donatella Versace and squeeze into a subway car shared with a gorilla, 6 women wearing pointy black hats, and a fat guy in an orange sweatsuit who I think is supposed to be a pumpkin, but might just be a fat guy with very little fashion sense. Any day where the grocery store cashier ringing up my loaf of bread and 12-pack of Diet Coke is likely to be wearing any of the above costumes.
Let us take, for example, the ridiculous concept of trick-or-treating. In what universe is it "adorable," "darling," or "so cute" for children to march up to the houses of total strangers and demand candy just because they want it? I would like to institute a holiday where I can march up to Tiffany or Cartier or even my (at this point non-existent, which is possibly why I'm so crabby) boyfriend and demand jewelry just because I want it. Now that is a holiday I could support. Does the fact that the child is dressed in some bizarre costume that is probably far too hyper-sexualized for his/her age (no little girl needs to march around in short-shorts and a bald cap and declare herself Britney Spears, that is just wrong) and probably cost more than my last purchase at Ann Taylor make it okay to rudely demand candy in exchange for NOT damaging my property? If I answered the door by informing the children that they should give me candy (or jewelry) in exchange for me not kicking them in the pants, no one would call me cute except maybe the nice women I'd meet IN PRISON.
And the older kids! I'm sorry, if you're taller than me, you should go get a job, not knock on my door demanding sweets. If you can drive yourself and your high-school classmates to my neighborhood, than you do not deserve anything from me unless you are the sweet neighborhood kid who I hired to water my plants, and then you already got your $3 an hour which was far more than I made when I was just a neighborhood kid, and I had to baby-sit, and let me tell you, punk-ass 4-year-olds are a lit bigger pain in the neck than my gardenias. If you look like you're in a gang and could kill me if I don't answer my door, than surely you have more important scores to settle on the streets of the 'hood, right?
So I beg of you all, stop the madness! I never thought I'd say this, but take a cue from my parents and the Halloweens of my youth: Rent a movie, order a pizza, lock the door, turn out the lights, and sit in the basement. Then the next day you can drive to Rite-Aid and buy all the leftover candy for half price, and it will be good candy that you picked out, not some junk that the cheap neighbor at the end of the block gives out, not tofu bars from the creepy vegan couple in the poop colored house, not religious tracts from the weird old lady who attends the church of Gonzo's innards at the top of the street. Am I the only one who sees the logic in this? People, unite! Together we can prevail over this ludicrous day!!!
(This post brought to you by the cranky 80-year-old woman I am on the inside. Anyone want to go shopping at Talbots for new babushkas?)
Tuesday, October 30, 2007
Thursday, October 11, 2007
Just Another Tequila Sunrise...
There's a reason I'm not an alcoholic, and it's nothing to do with strength or genetics or disease. The reason I'm not an alcoholic is simple: I'm a pessimist.
For me, the champagne flute is always half-empty.
I sometimes think about how very, very easy it would be for me to fall into the arms of my dear old friend gin, especially these days. With a job like mine, where I work minimum 80 hour weeks, plus weekends, who could blame me for using alcohol to help make the most of my precious few leisure hours? I don't much of a social life. What weekend nights I don't spend at the office, I more often spend with my sofa and my Dawson's Creek DVDs and sometimes a bottle of cabernet sauvignon. Sure my salary holds me back somewhat (that cabernet sauvignon more likely than not cost $3.99 at Trader Joe's.) But when I look at my life, I realize how easy it would be to succumb to the sweet succor of hard liquor.
But I don't. I won't let myself. And the reason is this: I am always waiting for the other shoe to drop. I know that rock-bottom is never rock-bottom. I know that my life will probably get worse in the future. Once I succumb to alcoholism, eventually, I'll have to get sober. And when that happens, I'll lose alcohol as a coping mechanism. I won't be able to ever drink again, no matter how awful my life gets.
Post-alcoholism, I'd have to actually face life. It's not that I avoid life now. I'm actually pretty good at facing my problems head on and eyes open. It's just that I know, in the back of my mind, I can drink alcohol, it will help me forget for a little while, and I might just get a few minutes of blissful ignorance. And I know that, should I ever find myself in a situation where even my cynical and pessimistic self believes that I cannot fall any lower, I can turn to alcohol to avoid my life. But you only get that option once, and I choose to be strategic in how I use it. I'm keepng it in my pocket, a backup for a moment in life that I hope I never come to.
No matter how bad it is, it can always, always get worse.
For me, the champagne flute is always half-empty.
I sometimes think about how very, very easy it would be for me to fall into the arms of my dear old friend gin, especially these days. With a job like mine, where I work minimum 80 hour weeks, plus weekends, who could blame me for using alcohol to help make the most of my precious few leisure hours? I don't much of a social life. What weekend nights I don't spend at the office, I more often spend with my sofa and my Dawson's Creek DVDs and sometimes a bottle of cabernet sauvignon. Sure my salary holds me back somewhat (that cabernet sauvignon more likely than not cost $3.99 at Trader Joe's.) But when I look at my life, I realize how easy it would be to succumb to the sweet succor of hard liquor.
But I don't. I won't let myself. And the reason is this: I am always waiting for the other shoe to drop. I know that rock-bottom is never rock-bottom. I know that my life will probably get worse in the future. Once I succumb to alcoholism, eventually, I'll have to get sober. And when that happens, I'll lose alcohol as a coping mechanism. I won't be able to ever drink again, no matter how awful my life gets.
Post-alcoholism, I'd have to actually face life. It's not that I avoid life now. I'm actually pretty good at facing my problems head on and eyes open. It's just that I know, in the back of my mind, I can drink alcohol, it will help me forget for a little while, and I might just get a few minutes of blissful ignorance. And I know that, should I ever find myself in a situation where even my cynical and pessimistic self believes that I cannot fall any lower, I can turn to alcohol to avoid my life. But you only get that option once, and I choose to be strategic in how I use it. I'm keepng it in my pocket, a backup for a moment in life that I hope I never come to.
No matter how bad it is, it can always, always get worse.
Monday, October 8, 2007
Love (actually, Hate) in an Elevator
I spend a lot of time in elevators. I suppose that's to be expected. Forget San Francisco, this is the real vertical city. When a 22-square-mile island has the priciest real estate in the country, well, there's nowhere to build but up.
I generally don't mind elevators. They're, for the most part, efficient and speedy. They keep me from having to trudge up stairs, especially when wearing heels. They provide a moment to calm and compose oneself before entering the office, or facing the roommates, or joining the throngs on the streets of the city. That is, of course, if one is lucky enough to have the elevator all to herself.
And as seems to be a theme in my life, I am never that lucky.
I end up sharing elevator cars with people yakking on their cell phones (And incidentally, why are the conversations I overhear always so banal? Does the person on the other end really need a minute by minute play-by-play of your activities? Is that person edified to hear that "Ok, I just got on the elevator. I should be there in 2 minutes. Oh, wait, we're stopping on the fourth floor, better make that 2.5 minutes.") or listening to MP3 players set nice and loud so we can all enjoy the misogynistic rap music emanating from the headphones (I cannot even begin to imagine how people can listen to "music" at this decibel level. Do we as a culture value our hearing so little?) Then there are those who insist on carrying on a highly personal conversation with someone else on the elevator. But those people are never actually standing next to each other. Oh no, they let themselves get pushed to opposite sides of the crowded elevator cars so that rather than speak in hushed tones amongst themselves, we all get treated to the details of Cheryl's recent visit to the podiatrist.
But the ones who make me the craziest are the ones whose crimes actually seem the most innocuous. It's the people who don't pay attention! You know what I mean. The person who absentmindedly wanders off the elevator on the fifth floor thinking that he's reached the lobby. The person who stands fully in the doorway and then looks startled, like you've deeply disturbed them, when you try to get on the elevator on another floor, like they never realized that elevators might make a few stops in between their embarkation and departure points. The same goes for the people who crowd up in front of an escalator in a lobby and then act surprised and annoyed when the elevator finally arrives and a crowd of people would actually like to get off of it before they can get on.
Seriously, people, get a grip! It's truly not that difficult. For heaven's sake, the floor numbers are displayed above the door! Is it that hard to sneak a glance before you wander off and then back on on the wrong floor? To step to the side or the back of the elevator, just in case someone dares to try to enter the car on another floor? To let the people exit before you shove your way on? I daresay no, no it is not that hard.
And for the record, whatever happened to elevator music? There's a reason it's called elevator music... because it should be played in an elevator! I like a little something to hum along to (actually, that's a lie. I like a little something to hum along to in my head. I give disapproving glares to people who hum (or, horror of horrors, sing) in close public quarters.) Stick a Barry Manilow tape on continuous loop in those things (this would have the added benefit of decreasing elevator crowding, as not everyone shares my love for Barry.) I beg of you, oh masters of the almighty elevator, to give me something to focus on besides the appalling behavior of my fellow passengers, and you would earn my eternal gratitude.
I generally don't mind elevators. They're, for the most part, efficient and speedy. They keep me from having to trudge up stairs, especially when wearing heels. They provide a moment to calm and compose oneself before entering the office, or facing the roommates, or joining the throngs on the streets of the city. That is, of course, if one is lucky enough to have the elevator all to herself.
And as seems to be a theme in my life, I am never that lucky.
I end up sharing elevator cars with people yakking on their cell phones (And incidentally, why are the conversations I overhear always so banal? Does the person on the other end really need a minute by minute play-by-play of your activities? Is that person edified to hear that "Ok, I just got on the elevator. I should be there in 2 minutes. Oh, wait, we're stopping on the fourth floor, better make that 2.5 minutes.") or listening to MP3 players set nice and loud so we can all enjoy the misogynistic rap music emanating from the headphones (I cannot even begin to imagine how people can listen to "music" at this decibel level. Do we as a culture value our hearing so little?) Then there are those who insist on carrying on a highly personal conversation with someone else on the elevator. But those people are never actually standing next to each other. Oh no, they let themselves get pushed to opposite sides of the crowded elevator cars so that rather than speak in hushed tones amongst themselves, we all get treated to the details of Cheryl's recent visit to the podiatrist.
But the ones who make me the craziest are the ones whose crimes actually seem the most innocuous. It's the people who don't pay attention! You know what I mean. The person who absentmindedly wanders off the elevator on the fifth floor thinking that he's reached the lobby. The person who stands fully in the doorway and then looks startled, like you've deeply disturbed them, when you try to get on the elevator on another floor, like they never realized that elevators might make a few stops in between their embarkation and departure points. The same goes for the people who crowd up in front of an escalator in a lobby and then act surprised and annoyed when the elevator finally arrives and a crowd of people would actually like to get off of it before they can get on.
Seriously, people, get a grip! It's truly not that difficult. For heaven's sake, the floor numbers are displayed above the door! Is it that hard to sneak a glance before you wander off and then back on on the wrong floor? To step to the side or the back of the elevator, just in case someone dares to try to enter the car on another floor? To let the people exit before you shove your way on? I daresay no, no it is not that hard.
And for the record, whatever happened to elevator music? There's a reason it's called elevator music... because it should be played in an elevator! I like a little something to hum along to (actually, that's a lie. I like a little something to hum along to in my head. I give disapproving glares to people who hum (or, horror of horrors, sing) in close public quarters.) Stick a Barry Manilow tape on continuous loop in those things (this would have the added benefit of decreasing elevator crowding, as not everyone shares my love for Barry.) I beg of you, oh masters of the almighty elevator, to give me something to focus on besides the appalling behavior of my fellow passengers, and you would earn my eternal gratitude.
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